Usually, they will get more withdrawn and stuck in their head when they're angry. They might try to shut off noise, lights, or find a room they can hide away in to deal with their thoughts and charged emotions. Some INFJs shut down and stop talking and reacting, trying to sort out their thoughts inside.
INFJs slam the door when they have been deeply wounded. They slam the door when they can no longer tolerate a person's toxicity. They do it to protect themselves from further hurt. If the door has been slammed on you, it's because the INFJ saw no other way of stopping the emotional pain you were causing them.
An INFJ, who is averse to conflict but strong in their own way, hates being vulnerable. The perfectionist in them needs that control, and vulnerability threatens it. They often keep their sensitivities to themselves, so if you ever do glimpse them, it means they've trusted you immensely by letting you in.
When INFJs are continually hurt or hurt bad enough, they slam the door on that toxic relationship. The well-known INFJ door slam isn't about punishing the other person. It's about protecting ourselves from more hurt. Even though many INFJs can seem to have a cold exterior, our hearts are soft.
Being cold and “heartless” is just an INFJ's surface personality, it's usually not real. They feel things very deeply, are sensitive and let things get to them easily. However, at times, INFJs can be really cold. If you did something wrong, INFJs got hurt and don't want you around anymore, that's how they will act.
Unhealthy INFJs have a hard time not taking everything personally. They view any form of criticism as a personal attack and can quickly create a “me versus the world” scenario in their mind. They “door slam” too easily, and they may take on the role of “misunderstood misfit” as a way of coping with their isolation.
Many INFJs, when speaking of their fears, cited fear of abandonment alongside a fear of opening up to others and allowing themselves to be loved unreservedly.
I think by nature, ENTJ is one of the meanest. They are mean mean. We INFJs on the other hand can be extremely bloody with our words, but (or because of) we say it in the right situation and our words are grounded in not just reality, but a personality flaw of you that manifested itself in that situation.
A toxic INFJ becomes an emotional parasite, sucking the life out of people close to them until a better victim crosses their path. They are prone to using vicious methods to shutdown opposition and are master manipulators. As an INTJ, the INFJ and ENFP are the two most toxic types I have run into.
An INFJ who appears quiet/shy/reserved usually appears that way when they either don't know the people they are surrounded by or they don't trust them. It's usually because they are guarded until they are sure they can trust other people, which is often interpreted by others as being anything from shy to snobby.
INFJs often lock out their emotions when they're upset. These often try to process their thoughts before reacting, which is why they might keep quiet or shut people out when aggrieved. The last thing they'd want to do is to react without consideration.
This is no longer the mourning period, the INFJ has completely come to terms with what has happened. If the INFJ is still emotional or upset, than there is hope to resolve the relationship. Once the Door Slam has happened there is no going back.
INFJs become angry about normal daily frustrations, but they can process those small things somewhat easily. The healthy INFJs knows how to cope with the little things which bother them on a day to day basis, but it is often dealing with people and humanity which bothers them.
These dark personality traits include narcissism, psychopathy, sadism and Machiavellianism, and are often linked to negative social outcomes - they're referred to in psychology as the 'dark tetrad'.
An evil INFJ is a psychopath and a narcissist. They are the complete opposite of a healthy, well-balanced INFJ. They would be unbelievably cold, cruel and calculating.
INFP: Voted “most likely to start a revolution”
…also “most likely to leave the revolution early and go look at clouds.” The INFP may be the toughest personality type of all for others to understand. They are seemingly easy-going and carefree, but when it comes to their values, they can become suddenly uncompromising.
Because of our passionate need for meaningful connection, we INFJs can get jealous easily when we see other people connecting and having fun. We might compare ourselves to them, or worse yet, when someone close to us has friends of their own, we might pull away, feeling unwanted and pathetic.
INFJs typically have trust issues because we are introverted, and intuitive. Most of the time, it takes a lot of observation for us to realise we can open up to you. Though, a lot of the time, INFJs, being so idealistic and loving, can think that others are actually not going to betray their trust.
Considering INFJ from the Myers-Briggs list of personalities perspective, the generally accepted ideal match is the ENTP personality. In addition, ENFP is also a great match as it can inspire and stimulate INFJs, while ENFJ can support the humanist function of INFJs'.
While INFJs are very caring people, they also have an occasionally vengeful side to their personality. ... The ones tender and loving INFJ can turn into someone harsh and ruthless.